I – CAN – DO MENTALITY
The level of success you see in your life is a direct result of your belief system.
I’m not talking about religion or philosophy here. What I mean is your belief in your ability to succeed.
Believing in yourself means having faith in your own capabilities. It means believing that you CAN -DO something — that it is within your ability. When you believe in yourself, you can overcome self-doubt and have the confidence to take action and get things done.
Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities in your life. At times you may find this difficult to do. The truth is that we’ve been conditioned throughout our lives to doubt ourselves. We must retrain ourselves to get rid of our fears and self-doubt in order to build self-esteem and self-confidence. After personally experiencing the good that focusing on positive thinking can bring, I can confidently say your ability to believe in yourself can change your life.
My friends always call me I -CAN -DO …Lol, as funny as it sounds it was a sobriquet coined from my surname. It wasn’t really meant to have an effect on my life the way it did because its initial intention was to be a comic tag, but that name did something to my mind.
I know by now you’d be wondering what a mere name has got to do with Self worth. The truth is the best of you isn’t anywhere else but it’s right within you. The process of thinking and talking about what you want and how to get it actually makes you feel happier and in greater control of your life. For me, constantly hearing a name came with some great energy, light and discovery. When you feel in control of your life, you start to believe in yourself more and boost your confidence.
Learning how to believe in yourself starts with thinking positively and vocalizing positive statements to yourself to build your self-esteem.
It also includes identifying what your highest values and aspirations in life are and setting expectations so you can be true to yourself — which will let you live your best life.
At the end of the day, believing in yourself doesn’t have to be a complicated process. Everything you have in your life is a result of your belief in yourself and the belief that it’s possible.
So if things ain’t working in your life don’t beat up yourself just take a pause and check your belief system; Yes, it’s okay to start all over sometimes.
When you’re drowning in fears, doubts, and self-sabotaging behaviours, success feels out of your grasp. All of the skills, training, and tools in the world won’t change your life.
That’s why I’m offering these powerful steps to overcome the obstacles in the way of your self-confidence.
Steps to Confidently Believing in Yourself
- THINK POSITIVELY
Believe it’s possible. Believe that you can do it regardless of what anyone says or where you are in life.
It’s not wishful thinking — believing something changes the way you see the world and yourself.
You either see possibilities or insurmountable obstacles.
Which will you choose?
To start believing in yourself, you have to stop believing you are stuck with the skills and abilities you have right now. This is called a fixed mindset, which is a limited thinking pattern that’s fatal to your success.
Instead, start believing you can change. This way of thinking is called a growth mindset. It means that you believe change is possible.
It may be true that you don’t have what it takes to accomplish your goals — right now. But if you believe you can improve, develop, and learn, then you will get there — even when nothing goes right.
2. VISUALIZE YOUR THOUGHTS __________________see the pictures
Think about exactly what your life would look like if you had already achieved your dream.
If you don’t believe in yourself, you won’t believe someone who is cheering you on from the sidelines.
What does success look like for you?
3. ACT IT
Always act in a way that is consistent with where you want to go.
How can you have faith in yourself when you don’t know who you really are? Or worse, you are trying hard to be someone you’re not.
Self-confidence comes from embracing who you are and what’s important to you. It does not come from being inauthentic or trying to impress people.
To start believing you can have the life you want, you must dig deep to discover what that will look like for you. You must understand what makes you unique, and celebrate those things.
When you begin living true to your identity and core values, you will start believing in your worth, your abilities, and your human potential.
Step out from the expectations of others.
Being authentic feels like a big risk, and you might be afraid of criticism. Remember that your experience of life is about you, and their experience of life is about them.
4. Take action towards your goals.
Do not let fear stop you, nothing happens in life until you take action.
If what you did today looks a lot like what you did yesterday and last week, and three years ago — you’re too comfortable. You’re in a pattern and it’s getting you exactly nowhere.
To make real change in your life you have to get uncomfortable. You have to step out of your cosy box and do things differently.
This means making a greater effort and even feeling a bit weird doing things that are out of the ordinary.
5. Do the weird things anyway.
You have this whole life to experiment with who you are. It’s your life and you don’t need to live it to anyone’s expectations but your own. If you want a different life, make it yourself.
Through experimenting and acting on your ideas, your capabilities and potential are reflected back at you.
Experimenting with different skills, approaches, and tactics in your life is one of the best ways to build confidence and foster mental toughness. Sure, it’s uncomfortable! New things always are.
Fortunately, when you start to do more new things, the fear becomes fun. You get to learn so much from trying new things, whether or not you succeed in the attempt.
There are challenges. Part of the process means getting over negative self-talk, fear of failure, and imposter syndrome. You may have to face genuine anxiety and work on ways to manage it.
Every single person who has done any kind of self-improvement will tell you that these feelings are very real. They’ll tell you it’s scary, but the results are worth it.
Each time you step into something new there will be fear. Your power lies in walking through that fear and doing the thing anyway.
The power of believing you can improve
The magic happens by simply believing it’s possible. Your belief in possibility is necessary to the work, the experimentation, and the consistency needed to change your life.
This belief in possibility is what provided rock stars with the single-minded intensity to get on stage every night, in the face of ridiculous odds.
It’s what gave famous authors the tenacity to keep writing and editing after countless rejected manuscripts.
It’s what kept star athletes training, through pain, injury, and loss, until they made it to the top.
Now you have some tools to start believing in yourself. Work on these steps consistently, and you will begin to see amazing things happening in your life.